MIA
Not to be confuzzled with MRI. My most favorite niece is in town and I’d much rather spend my time boring her with the minutiae of my life in real time than bore you via the beautiful art of the written word sometimes whole minutes after the fact.
I LOVE my niece. She’s nearly 17 and wonderful and has a bright future ahead of her even though both her parents are total tools. She’s funny and thoughtful and has a butt ton of common sense (except for that whole being caught in the shower with her boyfriend thing that I’ll cover in the next few paragraphs) – and also, I’m comparing her level of common sense to her parents and also my 3 year old. But still, none of that negates the fact that I ADORE this person. I always have. She’s a straight shooter. Also, she watches my kids when she’s here.
I’m glad she’s here and I’m happy to have her. I’m just not sure of my role in her life because she lives states and states and states away. I would love to have a talk with her concerning that little shower stunt and her vigorous assertion to her father that she and her boyfriend aren’t having sex. Yeah. I’ll wait while you stop laughing and rolling your eyes. I told my dad that too. I want to talk to her about responsibility and protecting herself (’cause we all know that it’s just safer to assume she and her boyfriend are… um… yeah) and you know, not doing to him until he does to you, but d-yang how’s an aunt supposed to tackle this?
Suggestions?

I had a similar “opportunity” with my cousin. She’s only a few years younger than me, but its just enough that she looks up to me a lot and still listens to what I have to say.
We went shopping and very quietly in one of the stores while brwosing through racks I started talking about some of her brothers and my antics when I was her age – Sort of a “did your brother ever tell about the night xyz happened? no? well let me fill you in…” …the conversation went to some of my old shenanigans regarding “getting caught” etc and sort of naturally evolved from there.
Good luck. I think if you talk to her as an aunt/friend then it’ll be ok. Hell, she might even have questions! BE READY!